Gender Socialization

"Killing Us Softly" is a video discussing how women are being view .Jean Kilbourne talks about how the ads show how woman should look like,how woman should act,how woman is just objects and also how woman have no saying.Jean show ads that illustrated how woman wants to be skinny and wants big breast and butts.How woman should be "passive and man should be "active".She talks about how woman do different things to theirselves to please society.Woman change their looks for others.She also talks about how in ads they would make woman look a certain way by using computer to make themselve look perfect,by they doing that it influence woman that they need to look like that.She also talks about ads that show woman with their hands over their mouth.Meaning that woman have no say.Woman is just sex symbols,they are weak and they are just property.She talks about how how it start from an early age for woman.As children growing up they will see all thses advertisement of how they have to wear makeup to look pretty and their bodies have to look a certain way.I never actually look at ads and advertisement in this way.this video really open up my eyes because I would have never thought that the ads mean more than it does.What really struck out to me is that theyuse woman in all different type of way.For example in one of the ads they use woman as skateboard.They show a man has his leg on top of the woman back as a skateboard ad.They also use woman body has perfume.
          "A Call to Man" Tony Porter talks about how men should act and how they should always be tough,stronge,show no emotion and no fears.He call these "Man Box".Man box is things man should fellow,be the decision maker,view woman as property and object,don't be like woman,don't show weakness and fear.He talks about a turn in point when he had to stop  the man box when his son would cry he would tell him to go in his room and get himselve together, when he ready to talk like a man he can come back.His son was 5yrs old.He was  so use to the man box that he wanted to raise his son just like that.He came to a realization that his son is just 5yrs old.He realize that his daughter would cry to him and he would hold her and when his son cry he would tell him to be man.It should be equal.No matter if its a boy or a girl.He was raise on not showing emotion he wanted to raise his son just like that.He wanted to build him on that .Also he talks about how his father would not cry infront of his mother and aunts because he didn't want the woman see him showing emotion.Another situation Mr.Porter talks about when his "Man Box Card" was in jeopardy.When he had to act like he had sex with the young lady because if he didn't he would have been breaking the Man box rule,  woman being a sex symbol and object.He rather at that time to to keep his Man Box Card then losing it.
  The two video is related to chapter 5 Socilization because in chapter five,Gender socialization is a process by wich females and males are taught the apprpriate behaviors, attitudes and traits for their biological sex.As said in Chapter 5 Socilization 'boys and girls are suppose expected to learn two entirely  different set of social norms"(pg145) Boys are expected to be tough,aggressive,loud and athletic and girls to be sensitive,passive,quiet,and nonathletic.(pg147).Just like Tony Porter said about the Man box and also when he show his reaction to his daughter crying and his son crying.he had two different approach.Killing Us Softly related to chapter 5Socilization because like Jean kilbroune talks about how ads and advisement show woman how they suppose to look and if they don't look like that way they are ugly.In chapter 5 they talk about how media has alot to do to howyoung woman wants to look.Alot young girls see how woman look on television and they are inspire by that.Also just like woman should be femine.As Jean show in the ads woman as all these makeup on,they are sex symbols,nothing more nothing less.Also when they say girls are suppose to be quiet.In some of the ads Jean show it shows that woman don't use their mouth to say things they use their hands and eyes.I feel like these are unwritten rules,these are rules that society,we the people makes up.We not going to go to jail if we don't follow these rules have being weak,not show emotions,being active and passive but we probably going to get look down on.For example past history their wasn't no woman police officer but today they are.MWoman wasn't suppose to do manly things and woman should just fellow what their husband do and say as Tony Porter was saying.That was part of  the Man Box.These are norms that we the people chose to fellow,